Motherhood

From the stay-at-home mom with a master's degree

Dear pregnant career-woman me, First of all, you are gorgeous! And you are about to embark on the best adventure yet – second only to the one you started after saying “I do” to your man. But you are scared. You don’t know any stay-at-home moms (SAHMs – you’ll know this acronym soon!) who have your level of education and career orientation, and, ironically, this new job intimidates you. Are you throwing away all those years of study and work?

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From a safe woman, a married mom who protects her daughter, Part 1

Dear 10-year-old Shai, Hi.  🙂 Wipe your tears.  It’s not your fault.  It never was.  25 years from now, you will see things much differently.  Believe it or not, mom is right about a lot of things concerning you.  I was going to write you an eloquent letter with paragraphs, but at this stage in the game, you probably need numbered points for easy reference.  I love you so much.  Please take my words to heart.

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From a mother with empty arms

Dear Carla, Nothing in your life will prepare you for the fall of 2007 – for that span of time when your heart enters a griefdeeperthanwords. On October 1, the sky will be gray and dark, and it will drizzle a mist-like rain – just enough to cover your tears. That day you will give birth. It won’t be your first time giving birth, so you will know what to expect.

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From a mom of 3 under 4 years old

Dear incoming grad school student Jessy, First of all, I know how closed you are to advice, especially any that comes from someone who approaches you with an attitude of, “I’m older, so I know.” It seems condescending, and I will strive to avoid that here. You’re busy. So very very very busy. And you’re going to crash…eventually. If you start now, though, you can build a support system who will surround you and encourage you so you don’t break apart upon impact.

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